Here's your stuff, bye.

So, a fairly big stumbling block on "E" and my way to bliss and happiness has been the fact that a fairly large portion of her stuff was still at her ex's house. I mentioned this way back in the post about our first big fight but nothing had really been done about it.

She kept planning on going, but never got around to actually doing it. She really didn't want to go alone, to avoid any major guilt trips, or sleep-over requests, or worse. But she didn't want to bring me along to avoid any confrontations, or freak-outs, or savage beatings (of me).

So she kept planning on inviting some friends and family along, but it just never happened. We were always doing something or other on the weekends, and she was just dreading the phone call she'd have to make to let him know she was coming. I don't even think she's talked to him since she and I started dating in early December, so how do you start that phone call. Back then he was still probably thinking she was coming back, and now she's living with me, and we're seriously discussing marriage and kids etc. She needed to let the guy know for sure that she'd moved on, the door was closed, etc, but she didn't want to completely blindside him either.


But then, last night, "E" got a post on her wall on facebook (classy btw) from her brother. "Dar left your stuff at my house, come get it". All of a sudden she goes from wondering how she can gently close the door on "Dar", to getting it slammed in her face. It's like getting fired just before you can quit, or getting dumped while you're figuring out how to let the other person down easy. Even if you're completely over things yourself, it takes you by surprise, blindsides you, and makes you wonder what the hell just happened.

"E" was up all night last night, unable to sleep. I'm sure part of it was the punch in the gut that this would have felt like, but I know she's ok. She's also worried about what stuff he brought. Wondering what's there, what's going to be missing (and possibly gone forever), what might be broken. It's a tough situation, I know I wouldn't want someone else sorting out my stuff and packing it up for me with little to no input on my part. Also, despite her reservations she did really want to go visit her old place one more time. See the house, the yard she landscaped, and visit their dog. Heck, even just one final, proper goodbye to the man she spent 5 years of her life with.

From my perspective though, this is probably the best way this could have worked out. She doesn't have to go up there and visit. I don't have to worry about her going up there to visit. She doesn't have to worry about letting him down easy, that she's never coming back to him. I take this as an indication that he finally knows. I don't have to worry about him trying to win her back. We simply have to drive up to Red Deer and get the stuff from her brother. Nice and casual, easy as pie.

I do feel really bad that because of this "E" might not get to see her wonderful dog again. I have two amazing dogs, and "E" loves them to death, but she had to leave her own dog behind when she left, and that's hard. I couldn't do it. If I didn't get to keep Daisy when I left "A", I probably couldn't have done it, and I know if I didn't let "A" borrow Daisy pretty much whenever she likes that she would be miserable.



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And in slightly related news, something that I have somehow forgotten to mention on here.

A few weeks back, "E" and I went ring shopping, "just to look". That was not actually my full intention at the time of inviting her, I wanted to find out what she likes so I could pick it up immediately. She picked out a lovely classic looking ring with one big diamond in the center of a circle of small diamonds. Very very pretty. She went off to look at some other stuff and I ordered the ring that day. I can pick it up anytime now. Maybe I'll post a pic when I do.

I know she's the one. She's my true love, and my forever. I just know that we can work out any disagreement, and that we will spend the rest of our lives together.

One thing I was waiting for was her finally moving her stuff here. It's not here yet, but it's a whole lot closer. Guess I'd better get my thinking cap on and figure out a spectacular way to give it to her.